I have heard it said that everyone that experiences grief, does so in their own way. I certainly agree. It does not take any one path in the lives of those that go through it.
Sometimes it hits all of a sudden when we least expect it. But I found the following this morning on a website that has some tips on how we can deal with it during Christmas.
Grief at Christmas can be eased by changing family traditions that normally would make you sad. If it is a parent you grieve, then make your holiday festivities different than what they were when he or she was alive.
I think this is true.
This holiday season has been the first without my husband who died unexpectedly in September. Thanksgiving was a bit different. We fixed our meal just a bit different. My adult son did a lot of the cooking, replacing my husband who had for the most part done it for the last several years. We changed the menu just a bit.
My husband had always wanted the same foods fixed the same way just as his family always did it. After they passed away, for a few years, we went to his sister's home. And she fixed her meal just like they had always done. Eventually though, as our children got older, we did Thanksgiving with just them and it was just like the way it was done. With never any devastation.
But this year, for the first time it was different.
This year my husband is gone. This year my son and his daughter now lives with me.
This year we did not make the pineapple upside down cake. We did not make homemade dressing like my husband always did it. This year we had green bean casserole that my daughter brought. This year my adult kids did just about everything for the first time. For the first time, I could relax and let them do it.
Small changes just in our menu that made the day a bit easier.
However, no matter the day, the holiday or the event we are celebrating, let us not change the One most important.
The One that does great things for us. 1 Sammuel 12;24
No matter how hard It is:
This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118: 23
Things for coming by, Friends. God bless you.
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